Monday, October 02, 2006

F.O.L.'s

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(The A Team)


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Name: Lilac Pete
Genus: Hippo, possibly
SFX: None
Origin: Gift from Bill & Beth
Distinguishing Characteristics: Frequent stroller companion, first 6 months. Now spends most of time in crib, facilitating naps. Rumored to be the inspiration for a character of the same name on an upcoming TV animation pilot (seriously!).


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Name: Pinky
Genus: Bear
SFX: Rattle
Origin: Gift from Debi D.
Distinguishing Characteristics: "B-List" bear, resorted to only when Bunnybear cannot be located.


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Name: Dr. Meow
Genus: Cat
SFX: None
Origin: Giveaway pile at the office
Distinguishing Characteristics: Named after beloved acupuncturist, Dr. Liao. Needy crib personality - insists on being first and last to kiss Lila at bedtime.


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Name: Ducky
Genus: Duck
SFX: None
Origin: Gift from Cousin Andy and Liz
Distinguishing Characteristics: Particularly soft and pliable. Never leaves crib.


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Name: Lamby
Genus: Cat
SFX: Rattle
Origin: Unknown
Distinguishing Characteristics: Has permanent smudge on face, so always looks like he needs a run through the washing machine. Named "Lamby" because he looks like a lamb. Lila likes to whisper secrets in her ear.

TO BE CONTINUED.

Tuesday, September 26, 2006

Our little autocrat.

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A two year old child is a uniquely sticky wicket, caught between exponential brain development and a short fuse for whatever she can't yet grasp. Case in point: She is old enough to know that her birthday is a special day where we celebrate her, but because she doesn't understand the passage of time, there is no convincing her that it is over.


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Every day since last Thursday, she demands to know where her presents are, and when her cake will be served. Not in a petulant, spoiled way, just in that stubbornly plaintive toddler way. Toddlers like their routines, and presents and cake are a a much more fun routine than brushing teeth and putting toys away.


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So every package, from a grocery bag, to a moving box, is presumed to be an unopened present. "This is for Lila?" she asks about everything with a top on it.


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And for Rosh Hoshanah on both Friday and Saturday night we lit candles before dinner, and as we did, Lila would just chirp in the background, "cake? Cake? Cake for Lila?"


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Which is not to say that she isn't thrilled with her birthday booty. New books, lots of pretend picnic food, her new birthday sweater, her doll stroller - all these are mentioned constantly and in are in heavy playing rotation. It's just funny to have a person who is more and more verbally competent by the day, but has no tolerance for logic or reasoning.

If she keeps this up, she could be running the country by Christmas.

Friday, September 22, 2006

Happy Birthday, Lila Quinn!

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It was two years ago this morning, 16 days after her due date, 36 hours after checking into the hospital, following two doses of Cytotec, an entire bag of Pitocin, and a too-late-and-not-that-effective epidural, that I managed to push our 9 lb. 3 oz. baby out.

"Ouch" doesn't even begin to cover it.


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The first thing the doctor said was, "Look at those eyelashes!"


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The second thing the doctor said was, "She may be a nine pound baby, but that's a ten pounder's head!"


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I remember that we decided to name her before we left the delivery room. We had been leaning toward Ellie, but when it came time to choose, we both agreed on Lila Quinn. It would be months before I could say her name without feeling my eyes well up at the thought of that moment.


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She was born around 9 AM, and that night I sent Josh home to sleep, with Lila next to me. When she awoke at 3 AM, I couldn't calm her. In retrospect, it seemed like she didn't STOP crying until she was four months old.

But after she was great.


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And now we've got this little person in our lives who says new little things every day like, "I'm happy!" and "I like cake!"


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So today, to celebrate, we all had cake.

And we are all very, very happy.

Wednesday, September 20, 2006

The inner workings of family life.

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Lila does not like to have her teeth brushed. They would have rotted and fallen out by now were it not for Josh's feverish dedication to her dental hygene, that, to be perfectly honest, needs to be monitored, lest it make the tiny leap into unbridled mania.


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The nightly task is replete with systems (daddy brushes daddy's teeth; Lila brushes Lila's teeth; Lila brushes daddy's teeth, and finally, the one that really counts, daddy brushes Lila's teeth), rituals (The oft-repeated mantra, so sacred that it could become Passover's fifth question: "Lila, when do we brush our teeth?" "Every! Night!"), pleading ("Just a little bit more! Just...a...little...bit...more...and...Done!") and endless praise ("Hooray! Hooray for Lila! Hooray for Lila's squeaky clean incisors!").

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And though I rib him for it, Josh's consist and measured assurances are the very model of good parenting, in my mind. The two of them battling it out in the bathroom every night is a microcosm of the constant negotiations upon which parenting is based. Push too far and you breed resentment and fear. Back off too quickly and you hand over the reins. It's reassuring to see the cogs of progress so plainly at work.

And I won't go anywhere near the task, myself, so...someone's got to do it.

Sunday, September 17, 2006

Surprise! We're moving.

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The big news in our house is that we are moving back East - and soon! We had thought we wouldn't be able to move before early December, but a wonderful apartment materialized in the most serendipitious manner. Now the movers will come on October 16th, and we'll settle in Brooklyn some time before Halloween.

Here's the story.

We had found the listing for an upper duplex of a brownstone through a parents' group I'm on, and so we sent our friends Karen and Dulcy to meet the landlords for us, and check the place out. They reported back that the apartment would work perfectly for us. It even had a washer and dryer, which is hard to come by inside an apartment - most realtors told us we'd be lucky to find a shared one in a building basement.

Karen described the block as "iconic Brooklyn" and "criminally leafy." Karen and Dulcy live right near by, as well a smattering of other friends. And Josh's cousin Isabel and her husband Mark are also just a few blocks away.

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We tried not to get too excited about it, but after Karen sent the pictures, we couldn't help but pin our hopes on getting it.

So we called the owners, Betty and Saul, a married couple with grown children living with their own families nearby, and made our pitch. We even sent the link to this blog so that they could see that we were pleasant enough, ordinary folks (who, granted, are a little obsessed with their criminally adorable daughter, to borrow Karen's phrasing). The owners were very kind and polite, but made the decision that any other landlord would do in their position - they decided to give the apartment to a couple whom they had met in person.

We were crestfallen.

For about three hours.

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Then we got a call from Betty to say that the strangest thing had happened. Her daughter-in-law had spontaneously stopped by the apartment in the afternoon, and Betty had relayed the drama of the day, and the outcome of their decision about whom they would rent the apartment to. Betty happened to mention where Josh worked, and the daughter-in-law inquired about his name. When Betty told her, she said, "I went to Hebrew school with Josh! Our mothers are still very good friends!"

Not only was the daughter-in-law Lynn, from Josh's hometown, but I had actually met her myself. Lynn is married to a rabbi, and when we were still in New York, we had attended services at her husband's temple. So we had also met Betty's son!

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And, if that weren't enough of a coincidence, apparently Josh's mom had told him about this apartment becoming available a couple of months ago, but he forgot.

He will - rightfully - never live that down.

So Betty was calling us back to tell us that if we still wanted the apartment, it was ours.

And we danced around our apartment, like ninnies!

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And so our time here - two years, and three months - is done. Lila, who turns two on Thursday, is about to become a New Yorker.

My parents left Pasadena when I was two and a half and moved to New England. I have fuzzy memories of our backyard, the view of the mountains, a pet turtle, and the 1972 earthquake that sent us packing. I do wonder what, if anything, Lila will remember of Southern California. I have complicated feelings about our time here, but not necessarily about the place itself; the weather, the healthy lifestyle, the environmental priorities, are all admirable. And we have certainly met and know people here that we will miss.

But it turns out I'm not the relentless adventurer I imagined myself to be before I had Lila. I don't want to challenge every boundary I encounter. I want to live in a more familiar world, and for us, right now, that's New York City.

As for Lila, little does she know what awaits her with winter, subways, alternate-side parking, stairs, and skyscrapers. She'll meet lots of old friends for the first time, get to see a lot more of her grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins, and discover the city that, to her parents, feels like home.

We can't wait.

Thursday, September 14, 2006

Katy stops by.

There are few people Lila warms to immediately, but our friend Katy is one of them. Above and beyond her kid-friendly personality, it probably doesn't hurt that Katy has a cat, too. A very fluffy cat. Here are a couple pictures from her last visit, sans cat.

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Sunday, September 10, 2006

Asked and answered.

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(random photo with no connection to story below)

I came home this afternoon from errands just as Lila was finishing her lunch. We had the following conversation:

Me: Lila! How are you?
Lila: I'm good!
Me: Did you go to the park with Eva?
Lila: Yes.
Me: What did you do there?
Lila: I went on the swing!

From there it got choppy and toddlerish, but for a few short sentences, I saw our future. Mommy asks questions! Lila answers! Jokes are told! Stories are recounted! Lessons are learned! I nearly swooned at her approaching capacity to carry on a real conversation.

Monday, September 04, 2006

Ruminations on a squirrel, unseen.

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This morning at breakfast on the patio, Lila was hoping to see the squirrel who makes regular appearances in our yard, usually in the tree branches. He didn't show, but she had a lot to say about him over the course of our meal. Direct quotes:

"He up high."

"He naked."

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"He sitting down."

"He eating breakfast too."

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"He with Aunt Carol."

"He with another squirrel."

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"He like coffee."

"He like cereal."

"He pretty."

Friday, September 01, 2006

Big Hair, Big Heart.

We usually tamp down Lila's mane in the morning with a barrette or a head-topper "ponytail" (not entirely an accurate description, but she likes to call it that), but one night around dinner time we decided to unfurl the curls and see how poofy it really was if we brushed it out.

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Look familiar? Just as we suspected, it was "The Kramer" was in full effect:

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Bad hair never looked so cute.

Wednesday, August 30, 2006

It's a sunny day at our house.

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(Lila, Big Nighty Night, and Sweetie Baby get ready for Sesame Street)

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(Let the magic begin)

That's my girl!

Monday, August 28, 2006

File Under: Food, Experimenting With

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Last night at dinner, Lila took her hand and very deliberately pressed it into the ketchup section of her plate, making sure to cover her palm and all of her fingers in ketchup. Then she placed her hand on her cheek and made a perfect ketchup hand-stamp on her face. Finally, she took a piece of chicken off her plate, and "dipped" it in the ketchup on her face and ate it. Then she looked at me like she had discovered penicillin and said, "How 'bout DAT!"

Friday, August 25, 2006

Thursday, August 24, 2006

3 conversations with strangers.

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Conversation #1:
Lila and I come upon a group of dog owners and their dogs at the park. The dog owners are friendly, and the dogs seem small and harmless, so we venture for a closer look. A middle aged woman with a small schnauzer says to Lila, "This is Sophie!"
Lila: "Sophie baby dog."
Woman: "Well, no actually, she's about five."
Lila: "Sophie have penis?"
Woman: "No, actually, Sophie doesn't have...a penis."
Lila: "Sophie have penis?"
Woman: "No-"
Lila: "Sophie have vagina!"
[Uncomfortable silence as the woman seems to determine she doesn't want to continue with this conversation.]
Me: "Let's go watch the tennis players, Lila."


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Conversation #2
Lila and I are at a nearby mall that has a fish pond and a fountain. We are sitting watching the fish, when an older man wheels his chair-bound elderly father next to us. The man greets us, and starts to talk to his father about the fish. Lila points to the younger man and says loudly, "man have vagina? Dat man have vagina? DAT MAN HAVE VAGINA?" We move away quickly before any eye contact can be made.


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Conversation #3
We are at the bookstore, reading an Elmo book. A store employee comes over and says, "Oh, do you like Elmo? I love Elmo! He's so cute!" Lila responds, "Elmo have vagina." I smile wanly, and the employee backs away.


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Wednesday, August 23, 2006

A mild blow to feminism.

I went to the flea market in Pasadena a couple of weeks ago and got Lila this adorable 1950's girl's apron from the Paducah, Kentucky. I admit it, my commitment to feminism takes an occasional backseat to vintage aprons. But can you blame me? How cute is this?

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I guess she needs a couple of more years till it fits. But she liked it enough that we had to pry it off her at bathtime.

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(She did NOT get to watch the Baby Einstein DVD she's staring wistfully at, by the way. It was in a Good Will pile in the house that she found...)

Tuesday, August 22, 2006

Arlo's visit.

Arlo and Sheila, our frequent New York visitors, came to town last week, and we carved out a little quality time in Venice. Arlo and Lila are about six weeks apart, and they really do make an adorable pair...when they get around to noticing each other.

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Visiting Arlo means three things to Lila: baby ducks, interesting musical toys, and plentiful snacks. When we walk around the canals, there are ducks at every turn, and the older Arlo and Lila get, the more inclined they seem to wander right off the edge of the sidewalk into duckland.

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As an added activity, we imported our sophisticated aquatic system (see below) to their house, where Lila demonstrated her innocent -yet-vaguely-hostile poolside etiquette of splashing and pouring water on anyone within arm's length. Arlo stood in the middle of the pool while Lila danced around the perimeter, making trouble.


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Lila is in a phase where she tends to summarize situations with three short sentences; the first two are statements of fact, and then the last comment is a little more abstract. As we drove away, Lila said from her carseat, "Arlo, babyducks."

"Uh huh," I replied. "You saw baby ducks with Arlo."

"Arlo like balls," she added.

"Yes," I said, "Arlo does like balls."

"Arlo nice boy," she concluded.

"True," I concurred.

And then she shifted gears. "Sunny Day?" she asked, drifting off into a reverie, as I plugged in the iPod and we settled in for our 1,432nd listen to the Sesame Street theme song.